“One of the best ways to set yourself up for success is to make sure the people you are choosing to spend time with have qualities that you want. Whether you realize it or not, the people you spend time with are rubbing off on you. Don’t think you can just sit in the lunchroom every day and listen to gossip and people badmouth the company and not be affected by it. Whether you join in or not, that poison is going inside of you. If you stay there long enough, more often than not, you’ll become a gossiper just like them. What’s the solution? Find somewhere else to eat lunch. Sit at a different table. Go outside. Yes, people may talk about you, they may think you’re odd, but you need to just rise above it. You have a destiny to fulfill. You are going places. You have to set yourself up for success by keeping that poison out of your life.
Psychologists tell us there is something called the “law of the group,” which means we associate with people according to the way we see ourselves. Have you ever noticed how, most of the time, people who gossip find other people who gossip? Negative people gravitate toward other negative people. Complainers seem to always find the other complainers. That’s where that saying “birds of a feather flock together” comes from. We find people just like us. Knowing this, I encourage you to evaluate your friendships. If your friends are all negative, tend to compromise, or settle for mediocrity, it’s time to get some new friends. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 13:20 that if you spend time with wise people, you will become wise. In the same way, if you spend time with victorious people, you will become victorious. If you spend time with successful people, you will become successful. So choose your friends carefully so you can set yourself up for success and be equipped to move forward in the destiny God has prepared for you! “
Article from Joel Osteen.
My former officemate from SLPI (now PiPlay) forwarded me an email containing “set Yourself Up for Success”. I did not read it right away, but I preserved it in my inbox as I know it is an interesting topic to read.
The message is true, there are so many hindrances for achieving one’s success, and one of these is the people you are working and spending time with. Whether you like it or not, you are somehow little by little becoming one of them, you go with the flow. No matter how resilient you are to go against it, sometimes it’s no avail. But, if you are really strong enough to just ignore what happens around you and go on with what is right, you are lucky, you are on a right track.
I remember when I was in a manufacturing company, one of my officemates from other department happened to walk with me and told me that gossiping and talking about somebody’s life is normal in their department. She told me when she arrived there, she became such because everyone in their department are fond of criticizing. I just shrugged and ignored because I know it will bring nothing to me.
We are the sole responsible for all what will happen to us, if you want it positive, treat life and everyone around positively.